Ahmad Jacobs is a barber living in Toledo. He had his daughter at 24
years old, and since then, his life has been devoted to
being the best father he can be to her.
Initially, Mr. Jacobs didn’t have a good relationship with his
co-parent, which caused a strain on his relationship with
“We didn’t really
trust each other. At times, one of us would think that one
cared more than the other or one did more than the other.”
Mr. Jacobs and his co-parent argued a lot and carried bitterness towards
each other. Because of this, he wasn’t able to see his
daughter when he wanted to.
He heard about Brothers United when a few staff walked into the
barbershop while he was working one day. He knew that he
could use some advice and help since he was new to
fatherhood. He joined to boost his mind and his life overall
in order to become a better father.
Mr. Jacobs says that BU was a five-star experience that helped him learn
how to deal with his co-parent in a more efficient manner.
He learned how to handle situations better and how to not
involve his daughter in the arguments he had with his
“I learned to keep
her out the negativity and put her in the positive.”
Over time, the relationship between Mr. Jacobs and his co-parent got
“That stuff goes
away when you realize that it’s really about your daughter
and being there for her.”
Mr. Jacob believes that his relationship with his daughter as well as
his co-parent improved because of his consistency and his
determination to not give up.
“I built that
relationship with my daughter every chance I got, and I
never walked away.”
Mr. Jacobs completed the program in 2019. He still works at Nitty’s
Barbershop and now sees his daughter daily.
He credits BU for teaching him how to communicate and behave, not only
as a father, but as a man. Even though he came in thinking
he knew a lot, he says Brothers United taught him many
things he didn’t know.
“It’s important to
be there for her and support her. It taught me that it’s
very important to be a father, not just a so-called dad.”
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