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An
individual in counseling provides clients the opportunity to
create goals they wish to achieve and objectives on how to
arrive and complete those goals. More often than not, many
clients are very, very, very hard on themselves. Yes, we
have all made mistakes, we have made ill choices in our
lives and the truth is we cannot change the past but most of
us stay in the past. The best we can do as human beings is
learn from our mistakes and take the experiences that we
felt less desirable and do better
Counseling
is not a place to come to be criticized or to be put down…we
can do that all by ourselves. As human beings, we often
look at the negative, the bad choices, the things we cannot
change and find ourselves living in a past we are unable to
change.
Regardless
of your challenges, you deserve a break. I wish I could say
that we could do that by hearing it and receiving it from
others whom seem to care but that’s not often the case.
Some of us are lucky enough to have a great support system,
some of us are not.
Summer has
just begun. Many of us have already tossed out our new
year’s resolutions for whatever reason. Today, take a
mental health moment and take the time to give yourself a
pat on the back for doing better, making change for the
better and continuing to try.
If you
must look at your past, look at how far you have come from
wherever you were from childhood on up to decades of age and
experience and even yesterday. The only one who can give up
on you is you. Many of us have made it through obstacles,
challenges, bad choices and a literal hell. Give yourself
permission to know and understand that you deserve a break
and a pat on the back from YOU! You deserve some time to
say, “you know what, I did what I did but I’m still
standing, I’m still breathing and I’m going to keep on
keepin on.”
Our
thoughts provoke our feelings and our feelings lead to our
behaviors. Take a seat and tell yourself today that your
life may not be your greatest of your expectations, but you
deserve some time to know, feel and understand that you love
yourself and will do all you can do to continue to do so.
Again, we
are all human beings and each of us put on our pants one leg
at a time. There is no perfection in humanity and “If your
mind can conceive it, and your heart can believe it, then
you can achieve it. Now, reach around pat yourself on the
back. Give yourself a break, you deserve it.
Bernadette Graham is a Licensed Professional Counselor,
National Certified Counselor and Certified Grief Recovery
Specialist. She is available for presentations and speaking
engagements on mental health topics. Provide feedback or
reach out at graham.bernadette@gmail.com or visit her
website at www.bjgrahamcounseling.com
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