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A Mental Health Moment

Giving Yourself a Pat on the Back….and a Break

By Bernadette Joy Graham, MA, LPC, NCC, Licensed Mental Health Therapist
The Truth Contributor

We as human beings all carry our own sets of issues, problems, disturbances and stress.  Unfortunately, we often look at other’s lives as better or worse, but the bottom line is that our lives are “our lives.”  As I counsel clients, each of them has issues he or she wants to work out.  Being a counselor is a career to help others process their issues, fears, angers and so forth.  Counselors are non-judgmental and provide clients with the tools necessary to work through those issues. 

Bernadette Joy Graham,

An individual in counseling provides clients the opportunity to create goals they wish to achieve and objectives on how to arrive and complete those goals.  More often than not, many clients are very, very, very hard on themselves.  Yes, we have all made mistakes, we have made ill choices in our lives and the truth is we cannot change the past but most of us stay in the past.  The best we can do as human beings is learn from our mistakes and take the experiences that we felt less desirable and do better

Counseling is not a place to come to be criticized or to be put down…we can do that all by ourselves.  As human beings, we often look at the negative, the bad choices, the things we cannot change and find ourselves living in a past we are unable to change. 

Regardless of your challenges, you deserve a break. I wish I could say that we could do that by hearing it and receiving it from others whom seem to care but that’s not often the case.  Some of us are lucky enough to have a great support system, some of us are not. 

Summer has just begun.  Many of us have already tossed out our new year’s resolutions for whatever reason.  Today, take a mental health moment and take the time to give yourself a pat on the back for doing better, making change for the better and continuing to try. 

If you must look at your past, look at how far you have come from wherever you were from childhood on up to decades of age and experience and even yesterday.  The only one who can give up on you is you.  Many of us have made it through obstacles, challenges, bad choices and a literal hell.  Give yourself permission to know and understand that you deserve a break and a pat on the back from YOU!  You deserve some time to say, “you know what, I did what I did but I’m still standing, I’m still breathing and I’m going to keep on keepin on.”

Our thoughts provoke our feelings and our feelings lead to our behaviors.  Take a seat and tell yourself today that your life may not be your greatest of your expectations, but you deserve some time to know, feel and understand that you love yourself and will do all you can do to continue to do so. 

Again, we are all human beings and each of us put on our pants one leg at a time.  There is no perfection in humanity and “If your mind can conceive it, and your heart can believe it, then you can achieve it.  Now, reach around pat yourself on the back.  Give yourself a break, you deserve it.

  Bernadette Graham is a Licensed Professional Counselor, National Certified Counselor and Certified Grief Recovery Specialist. She is available for presentations and speaking engagements on mental health topics.  Provide feedback or reach out at graham.bernadette@gmail.com or visit her website at www.bjgrahamcounseling.com



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